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Writerblr Introduction

Writing, it’s one of those things that everyone can learn. For some of us it’s just in our blood because no matter what we do, we will always end up here. Writing our little hearts away. I am no different. I write because something in me calls out, something in me has to tell these stories. And for some reason I can’t stop doing it.

Now you’re probably thinking; that’s great but who are you?

Well, let me introduce myself and my blog:

Ben. 31 years old. Dutch. Gemini. Transmasc, He/Him. ADHD, Autistic. Self proclaimed disaster Bi & aroace (It’s complicated). INFP. Cat parent. Movie & Video game enthousiast. Dinosaur & Bird of prey obsessed.

Genres that I write:

LGBTQ Romance. Fantasy. Paranormal. Contemporary. Adult.

Favorite tropes:

Found Family. Enemies (to friends) to lovers. Second chance at love. Unlikely Friendships. Big strong burly dude is a softie around kids. All the weaknesses, none of the strengths. Anti-hero. Everyone is morally grey. Satan is the good guy. Angels are dicks. The asshole becomes one of the good guys. Everybody heals from trauma. Angst with happy ending. Whump. Reluctant monster.

flythesail:

Being a fan of a show should not be this exhausting. We should not have to rewatch a show 10 times, tweet about it 100 times, etc. as if we’re to blame when it doesn’t reach some undefinable standard of “acceptable numbers.” I’m so tired of shows being canceled and numbers being to blame when platforms promo a bit around release and then let the show flounder. There’s no way that’s a sustainable business method! You’re banking on what, the rare occasion where a show becomes the latest trend? And even when people pull the data for these shows, it’s not bad. That’s with minimal effort put toward promo. If they put in more effort, imagine how much higher those “not bad” numbers would be. They’re going quantity over quality, and even when there’s quality within that pool, they don’t bother to recognize the potential for success and the fact that success can grow over time. When shows would run for multiple seasons, you could get away with an okay first season as some shows take time to find their footing and audience. The average show is probably not the next stranger things. But we’re losing so many good stories from talented teams by expecting every show to do the unimaginable all on its own. The binging model makes it even worse, as the unimaginable is also supposed to happen within a short amount of time (release week). It doesn’t make sense to me to have teams put 1-2 years of hard work into creating something only to throw it into the crowd and give it a week to succeed. I know I’m not the only one who has said “hey, that show looks cool” and before I could even start it, the show was canceled. That encourages people to NOT watch anything new, as what’s the point if it’s going to be canceled? So completely missing the point of the problem at hand, platforms go and make another.

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cronagorgonzola:
“mrmessofga:
“meandmybigmouth:
“laughoutloud-club:
“So poor people don’t deserve to have money?!
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THEY’LL JUST WASTE IT ON SURVIVAL!
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Also, if you’ve taken more than a high school economics course taught by someone who has never...

cronagorgonzola:

mrmessofga:

meandmybigmouth:

laughoutloud-club:

So poor people don’t deserve to have money?!

THEY’LL JUST WASTE IT ON SURVIVAL! 

Also, if you’ve taken more than a high school economics course taught by someone who has never stepped foot in a college economics class,

Giving $500 to poor people multiplies it REALLY FAST. That $500 immediately goes into the economy and ripples more purchases until it hits a rich pocket.

Giving $500 to a billionaire takes $500 out of the economy permenantly. You could have set it on fire and made no difference.

That is such an important part of the conversation that rich people seem to purposefully misunderstand whenever it’s brought up

Money exists to be spent, not hoarded. Yes, people should have saving, but no one should be sitting on a pile of money too big to spend in a single lifetime. “The economy” as a concept only works if people are spending money, and the people hoarding the money are so quick to blame the people who barely have any when the economy starts to fail

Having a big string of numbers in an offshore account doesnt make you an economic genius, it makes you a parasite that is ruining the economy for everyone else

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changelingsandothernonsense:

teal-deer:

changelingsandothernonsense:

New Ea-nāṣir lore just dropped and I don’t know how to feel about that. I hate the meme but the guy having thugs coming after him for bad copper sales is perfect.

Wait wait WAIT

As someone who hard agrees with all your tags re: tired of the meem

BUT who is also invested in antiquities

Is it possible for you to drop the new lore

So the building in Ur where the infamous tablet was found (1 “Old Street” Ur Excavations VII) was actually full of similar tablets, all detailing how badly this guy’s deals went. All of these tablets were collected and put into storage at the British Museum. Typically this kind of thing gets forgotten about, many of these tablets have been sitting there for a century, untranslated or partially translated.

The Nu Tabletum

This was recently partially translated and it’s incredibly fragmentary, but it’s a letter from the man himself reassuring a customer in Larsa about a bad shipment (a lot of goods were missing). He is upset that the customer sent thugs to collect (which is located in a different tablet). In turn, he sends his own to the customer’s home. They are to make offerings at the temple of Šamaš together to symbolically “smooth things over”. They are taking an oath.

He later goes on to blame the customer for the missing ingots. He (Ea-nāṣir) decided to employ a third party to deliver said ingots to the customer (all the way in the next city-state in the Sumerian cultural sphere). It seems like the third party either stole or got into a fight with the customer over the goods.

Ea-nāṣir now has to haul his ass to Larsa to deal with this personally. There’s a lot of “Why don’t you believe me?” “They don’t listen to me!” “Please don’t send-” going on in the tablet. But from what I can gather it looks like this peace offering (making an oath at the temple of Šamaš) broke down too. Everyone is blaming each other for the missing copper ingots and now the man himself has to take the three-day journey to sort out this issue.

We have a name for one of the thugs: Mr. Shorty (kurûm). He seems to be a bit scary.

The man from Dilmun got kicked out of the Merchant’s Guild for a reason, he’s had this problem before with copper shipments from Elam. Either he’s the world’s worst judge of character or he’s embezzling, and badly. This is his side hustle stage where he’s selling everything from used clothing to speculating (badly) on real estate. He may have dabbled in money lending too. He’s your classic failed finance bro.

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wip:

wip:

Don’t miss a thing! New unread activity notifications

We’re making some changes to the activity view on web — starting with unread notifications that will be highlighted blue, as well as multi-colored labels to identify those who you’re closest with.

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Why are we doing this?

You may have previously noticed that some activity items were highlighted, and some weren’t. What you may not know is why this was, and you’re not alone.

The previous, light blue highlighting indicated items that were from people you follow. Obvious, right? Well, no, not really. There are design patterns in interfaces that have become standardized from widespread usage to mean a certain thing. Highlighting notifications light blue is one of those that have come to mean “unseen” or “unread.” Which is what it will now mean here, too.

How do I know which are from people I follow?

Good news! We now have colorful labels to identify activity from people you follow. On top of that, we’ve created a new label called “Mutuals” to show people you follow and who follow you back so that you can keep track of those closest to you.

Before and after

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  1. Before: Blue highlighting used to signify activity from people you follow.
  2. After: New highlight color now used on unread activity
  3. After: Colorful new labels to distinguish activity from people you follow (following) and who follow you back (mutuals).

More to come

This is the first of several improvements we are making to activity and notifications—so stay tuned for further updates as they come!

Feedback?

Why not let us know what you think in the replies? We’d love to hear from you.

Thank you all for the quick feedback so far! Some clarifications:

  • “Mutuals” are people you follow who also follow you back. This only applies to your primary blogs, not your secondary blogs, for those of you with many blogs.
  • This change is only on web to start, as an experiment for certain users. We’re working on bringing it to the mobile apps.
  • You’ll be able to clear the “unread” status just by checking your activity, either in the popover or on the full activity page, no clicking on anything required.

Please keep the feedback coming, we appreciate it!

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fullyarticulatedgoldskeleton:

When people ask, “How can I tell if someone is disabled or just lazy?” I think about my parents.

My parents have known me my whole life. When they’re not actively contemptuous of me, they do seem to be somewhat aware of my general personality and character. In one of his nicer moments, my dad has called me “sweet-natured.” They can tell that when I make them a surprise breakfast or lunch that I enjoy being helpful and doing nice things for people.

They know from watching me grow up that I have always had trouble keeping my room clean, getting homework done, and keeping my desk tidy at school.

The longest I can push myself past my limits is about nine months. Then I collapse and end up less functional than I was before I pushed myself. This has been a pattern throughout my middle and high school years. I would go to public school for about a year, and then collapse and have to do the rest of my education at home. My work history follows this pattern, too.

I once sat in a therapy session with my dad to talk about the constant struggle we were having at home because he wanted me to help out more and do better in school. When he asked me why I didn’t do things, I broke down in tears, because I couldn’t explain it. “I just CAN’T. I want to, and I CAN’T.” Nobody listened.

My mom asked me why I don’t do things, and I said, “I just can’t. I sit there for hours trying to convince myself to do things, and I can’t. Move.”

And she said, “Don’t think about it, just do it,” completely missing the point.

When I got older I found words for the things I was dealing with. I got professionally diagnosed, and I’d look up information about my diagnosis and e-mail articles to my parents explaining what my disability is and why I can’t do things.

My parents have firsthand information about my character (helpful, likes doing things for others) and my history with disability (can’t consistently keep things clean, can’t manage a daily schedule). I’ve talked to them extensively about my diagnosis and given them information about it. They have known me my whole life, and I’ve always been this way. And they still, STILL choose to believe I’m just a bad person who doesn’t try and doesn’t care.

My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.

People like problems they can yell at. They like having a target for their frustration. They don’t want to admit disability is real, because they want problems that they can either solve, or blame someone else for. And the disabled person themself is  their scapegoat, someone who can’t ever opt out of their role because the disability is never going to go away.

My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.

My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.

My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.

“The longest I can push myself past my limits is about nine months. Then I collapse and end up less functional than I was before I pushed myself.“

Oh.

“They don’t want to admit disability is real, because they want problems that they can either solve, or blame someone else for. And the disabled person themself is  their scapegoat, someone who can’t ever opt out of their role because the disability is never going to go away.”

Well this resonates 🫠

Boosting signal

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